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[–] ryedaft@sh.itjust.works 13 points 5 days ago (14 children)

Can women message people on Tinder they haven't matched with?

And if this was effective wouldn't it lower all women's Elo scores? Unless he only ignored one group and catfished everybody else. Sounds like a lot of work.

[–] dai@lemmy.world 8 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (13 children)

No, only tinder premium can do so IIRC.

Bumble? From memory women can only message first, men must wait to be messaged before they can.

It's been a while since I used those platforms so my information could be incorrect.

[–] BugleFingers@lemmy.world 14 points 5 days ago (12 children)

Bumble is moving away from having women message first as apparently it was too much of a burden for the women on that app (According to https://www.npr.org/2024/05/06/1249296671/bumble-dating-apps-women-opening-moves )

Understandable as I find having to generate an opener hard too. Kinda a shame though as the point was to give them a place to have some more control with the interactions.

[–] Dkarma@lemmy.world -3 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Ppl in this thread so pathetic they can't say "hello"??

Epic

[–] Cethin@lemmy.zip 2 points 4 days ago

If the best you can do is say hello, that's pretty pethetic.

The complaint is that Bumble had something that made it unique: that women sent the first message. On other services anyone can message first, but 99.9% of the time that ends up being the man, which is fine but having something attempt to switch that up was cool. Bumble removing this makes it more like everything else.

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