I like women, I sleep with cis women. I do not want to sleep with trans women. By my personal assessment I'm somewhat transphobic and need to work on that.

Checkmate, lemmy.

[–] humbletightband@lemmy.dbzer0.com 23 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Everybody has their preferences and we often make fun of it.

She wants a wealthy partner, she's a golddigger
he wants a gf with big tits - mommy issues
he doesn't want a gf with a penis, he's a big piece of transphobic shit

See, it's just the way we communicate

[–] where_am_i@sh.itjust.works 0 points 4 months ago (1 children)

But all 3 are correct. Number two is a bit of an overstatement, but "I need a gf with big tits" is definitely hella objectifying and devaluing another human.

[–] humbletightband@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 4 months ago

"I need a gf with big tits" is definitely hella objectifying and devaluing another human.

We're complex beings and there might be some preferences in a matter of sex and appearance. I used to be a good friend to a closeted married gay. He loved his wife, but he has decided to divorce her and become openly gay. He had his preferences, but it would be much easier if he accepted these preferences and had chosen a partner according to these preferences. Same with tits I believe.

[–] grrgyle@slrpnk.net 6 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (1 children)

Maybe you are, but do you feel oppressed?

We've all got biases, invisible or no that we're working on, like you said. Better to know them though

[–] where_am_i@sh.itjust.works 2 points 4 months ago

With this fuckin lemmy you never know. You say something minorly controversial, you get beaten up. You come out to be transphobic and they pat you on the shoulder. Go figure.

Although, I'm certainly not oppressed.

[–] femtech@midwest.social 3 points 4 months ago

Hell I'm trans and I was worried as I never had sex with another penis till I started dating another trans woman. I wasn't great at it and actually love it after I had my surgery.