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I learned in my 20's that my ideal mix of interests with a significant other needs to include:

• Shared interests that we already loved before we met, that we can connect and bond over for that initial spark.
• Her interests that she introduces to me, and my interests that I introduce to her, so that we can build on something together and appreciate how the other has enriched our own lives.
• Some new interests that we can both pick up and grow in together, and further reinforce our enjoyment of spending time together and growing together.
• Our own individual interests that never really click with the other, so that we can each continue to do things that reinforce our individuality and self identity distinct from that particular relationship.

For me and my wife, we already loved food and dining and cooking before we met each other. Easy thing to build early dates around: "have you been to so and so restaurant, I've always wanted to check it out." We also loved a lot of the same TV shows (mostly single camera sitcoms like The Office, Arrested Development, etc.), and had easy couch time for quiet nights in.

She introduced me to style and fashion, and I appreciate a lot of the things about clothing and accessories and even makeup that I never bothered with before the age of 35.

I introduced her to football, and we enjoy going to games together.

We both introduced each other to a lot of musicians, TV shows, movies, and other entertainment we now both like.

We both picked up an interest in wine, whiskey, cocktails, and learned about this stuff together (and have planned memorable vacations centered on the places where people produce that kind of stuff). We also really learned to appreciate architecture and interior design, going as far as to go on tours and visits to specific places and cities and museums for these types of things. We became really particular about silverware and dishes at some point, too, which was a bit of an extension of our love of dining and our love of interior design.

And we still like our own stuff. She likes golf and tennis. I like basketball. I like all sorts of techy nerdy things that she has no interest in. She loves certain types of books and movies that I just do not care about. Our fitness routines have basically no overlap (yoga and spin versus powerlifting and Crossfit-style functional fitness workouts). She likes home improvement and garden stuff and I barely tolerate occasionally doing a few things around the house.

And it works. Having both distinct parts of your life and shared parts of your life seems to strengthen the bonds overall.

Sorry, but when you say sluthdemon. The only thing i can think about is a demon that forces you to watch as it solves crime using deduction all the wile making you look too stupid to have solved it.

Try 3 cats, it's the shit.

My sloth demon wants me to play the new mario kart and eat curries. I have married her.

Get in the line, buddy

Thanks doom guy.

Honestly, people on here would find this hot/great for like a day, maybe a week max. If it goes on more than that, the negative side effects will kick in.

all this means is you're more well-adjusted than the average 4chan user.

I mean, if we're making up a story about a kind of demon it probably shouldn't be a healthy relationship.

A succubus sucks your soul out through your crotch, which feels great until it doesn't. That's why its supposed to be a scary monster.

The post says, "until you die of natural causes", but for a counterpart to a succubus I think it would much more appropriate if it was able supernaturally influence you to reduce your worries and make you more and more dependent on it (just as a succubus can supernaturally charm its victims). Gradually you care about less and less as you lose all motivation, and at the end you don't even bother to struggle as your soul is ripped from your body.

It's infantilizing. I would never treat a grown man that way, nor would I live with a guy who expected to be 'taken care of' to that extent. It implies a lack of trust in your ability to take care of yourself. I want a partner, not another child to take care of!

You are average in this, I would say.

You write that as if it's abad thing but I'm sold already

Remember that time you said you were gonna travel? You were gonna go to Japan, you said. Too late now. You're too tired, you don't have any money. All you have is the Sloth Demon.

That's the wombo combo of depression and poverty.

Now that is worth being scared of. Thank you

Kind of sounds like succubi.

still if they are targeted they could derail human achievement, promising nasa worker? too bad you got slothed

I think anon might be a bit of an incel...