are there proper ways to engage people in game? it seems strange to me to randomly ask someone to be friends. i also don't see many ways to strike up conversations (if that's the proper way to refer to it).

for additional context, in a game like Throne & Liberty or FFXIV, there are tons of people running around doing their thing. do you just whisper to someone and say hi? do you comment on their character or if you saw them do something interesting / cool?

or, for something like The First Descendant you may run a mission with a bunch of random people and then everyone goes their separate ways. but, if that group was cool (and good) do you quickly try to friend everyone?

personal context (if it helps / matters), console gamer (PlayStation don't judge please, haha), really introverted / anxious around strangers IRL, older play (mid 50s) and ultimately... afraid of looking like a weirdo 😀

apologies in advance if this topic was already discussed (happy to check another post if some can point me to it). also, apologies if i don't directly respond to every message, although i will read them all.

edit - 2024/11/16 - i just wanted to say thank you to everyone for your advice and taking the time to reply / provide your insights. this has really been helpful!! happy gaming to you all 🎮 🕹️ 😄

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[–] Brokkr@lemmy.world 14 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Give all of those things a try. None of them are "wrong". Experiment and see what works best with the type of people you want to spend time with. Just don't get discouraged if your success rate is low (some people just won't be interested) and respect people's decisions if they choose to ignore you.

[–] randomcruft@lemmy.sdf.org 1 points 1 month ago

solid advice right here. thank you so much, i'll experiment a little and see how it goes... i'm probably over thinking some of this as well 😆