are there proper ways to engage people in game? it seems strange to me to randomly ask someone to be friends. i also don't see many ways to strike up conversations (if that's the proper way to refer to it).

for additional context, in a game like Throne & Liberty or FFXIV, there are tons of people running around doing their thing. do you just whisper to someone and say hi? do you comment on their character or if you saw them do something interesting / cool?

or, for something like The First Descendant you may run a mission with a bunch of random people and then everyone goes their separate ways. but, if that group was cool (and good) do you quickly try to friend everyone?

personal context (if it helps / matters), console gamer (PlayStation don't judge please, haha), really introverted / anxious around strangers IRL, older play (mid 50s) and ultimately... afraid of looking like a weirdo 😀

apologies in advance if this topic was already discussed (happy to check another post if some can point me to it). also, apologies if i don't directly respond to every message, although i will read them all.

edit - 2024/11/16 - i just wanted to say thank you to everyone for your advice and taking the time to reply / provide your insights. this has really been helpful!! happy gaming to you all 🎮 🕹️ 😄

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[–] GladiusB@lemmy.world 6 points 5 days ago (2 children)

I am an ultimate raider in FFXIV. If I am traveling around, ask away. One of the greatest things about our community is there a bunch of people that love to help and teach. But you have to be honest about where you are at. If you don't know, say something. But if you pretend to be further ahead and people are expecting to beat something, it will be awkward. But that's raiding. The rest is just finding what you like about it. There are usually tons of discord channels that helps you find what you are interested in.

[–] randomcruft@lemmy.sdf.org 2 points 4 days ago (1 children)

understood about you don’t know, say something. for me that's easy, i'm not one to say i know things when i don't. appreciate the feedback.

[–] GladiusB@lemmy.world 2 points 4 days ago

It's just a basic courtesy. You will get far more people willing to help by saying "I don't know this, how do I [enter whatever you need to know]" good luck out there!