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It's not a problem until someone tells you to not refer to them as a dude or a guy. If you continue, you are just an asshole ๐คท๐ป
Sure, but we're talking plurals of strangers atm. "Please don't call me a guy going forward" is a different conversation than "what you just said is stupid, mean, and wrong".
Your facts are not what OP wrote, though. And in this context the facts are relevant, which is the point.
Bad red herring.
We don't know what happened. What makes you think that what op wrote isn't the facts. I can totally see something like that happening it's not at all unbelievable.
It's the same picture?
No it really isn't. One clearly and directly communicates a need. The other response shies away from that and insults without explaining why.
Drag... Supposes, that's how it would look without applying much empathy. But if someone gets called something and says it's bad, it must be clear they don't like it. If they're angry, that's a kind of upset. It means they could be hurting. Drag would understand no matter how someone phrased it.
If the other party is 3, then yes. From adults I expect ability to differentiate between stating a need and throwing a tantrum.
Drag is very forgiving when a trans person is upset they've been misgendered. Growing up as the wrong gender is traumatic. It can literally give you cPTSD and personality disorders. Being triggered because you feel like you're back in that situation is a completely understandable response. Drag uses gender neutral "guys", but acknowledges that it's a dangerous practice, and if you hurt someone then you need to own it. They don't owe anyone politeness in that moment. If drag didn't like that responsibility, drag wouldn't take risks with other people's mental health.
Out of curiosity, have your therapist told you ever about the dangers of using third person pronoun when expressing yourself? Like it strengthens the disassociation between you and your body and mind, etc. etc? If not, please change them.
This is coming from a genuine place, I'm not trying to be sarcastic or mean.
Fortunately, drag doesn't use third person pronouns for dragself. You assumed they were third person because you're only used to seeing that conjugation with third person. But conjugation doesn't have a relationship to grammatical person in English. One form of conjugation can apply in multiple persons.