Selfhosted

If you've been selfhosting conduit or conduwuit, you probabl are aware that the conduwuit project was discontinued a couple months back.

I've been holding out on updating my matrix homeserver until it becomes clear which fork(s) will survive long term.

I feel like I can't put off updating for much longer now, plus the tuwunel nixpkg and -module were merged yesterday, so now the two most promising forks are both options for me.

Still, I'm unsure what route to take. Here's my thoughts:

• not going through another round of this in a couple of months from now would be great, so stability and long-term maintenance promises would be great
• I assume incompatibility between the forks, if not now then very soon; this is a "pick an option, then stick with it and pray" situation
• tuwunel apparently has a full-time paid dev working on it now, which is great; at the same time, that means features will follow the priorities of the (as of now unknown) sponsor of the project
• it is, however, the officially endorsed successor
• it also seems like few other people are actively involved, putting in question development practices, reviews, and what happens should the lead dev throw in the towel
• lastly, while there's been a lot of apparently rapid progress (with releases 1.0.0, 1.1.0, and 1.2.0 at quite a fast pace), the repo itself seems... empty? Few issues, few PRs, commentlessly-deleted issues
• on the other hand, continuwuity seems more active by commit/contributors count, but is seemingly 100% volunteer work
• they do seem to backport tuwunel changes and features, which is great!
• they are not officially endorsed

In short: I fucking hate community drama. What fork did you go with? Is there anything else to consider? I just want an up-to-date matrix homeserver, and not to have to tell my users "sorry, starting from scratch because we picked the wrong fork..."