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Don't let a few people ruin your experience
It's more than a few. It's several admins, a handful of their followers, nearly an entire instance's users (even after blocking it), prolific posters that mod dozens of comms and people will rally behind them regardless of how much of an asshole they are being to you, and even one user in particular that was banned but is now hiding under a new account.
It's also partly how the platform works which feeds the most toxic users. It's how the platform seems to entice people into stricter tribalistic behavior than other platforms. Say anything that might be construed as negative towards one of the many things these groups base their entire identity on and you get swarmed by them and you can't even defend yourself. You get downvoted to hell and they get upvoted for being assholes by their other cult-like followers. Not that votes "matter", but it just makes it feel shitty when someone decides to be an asshole to you and they get supported for it while trying to defend yourself only gets more people against you.
There's more, but trying to describe it all is making me feel worse.
This place sucks. It's absolutely awful that I feel this is actually true, but reddit was better than this.
It's not perfect, but we don't have anywhere better to go.
I don't expect perfection from anywhere. But yeah, nowhere better to go is kinda the main issue. I feel trapped and surrounded.
I have an account with non drama communities (!gardening@lemmy.world and others), then one that has the meta communities (and the drama)
Sometimes I only use the first one, allows me to take a break from the meta drama