Ignoring the sexism bordering on mild misogyny:

Lol. Ok Stretch Armstrong.

The vast majority of christians don’t actually hate The Gays.

If you vote to hurt someone, you hate them. This isn't complicated.

But once The Gays are outright attacking christianity? Guess what? “Both sides traded barbs” becomes “They are literally coming to destroy your beliefs” and it is a literal holy war.

Shit. So you're saying if we just left the Nazis alone they would have tolerated the Jews? Lol. I like how you consider direct Christian attacks on LGBTQ people as "tolerance". They are already actively degrading the quality of life of LGBTQ people. Do you expect people to just sit by and be subjugated in the hopes that they won't be subjugated harder if they do something?

to go back to your sexism

Oof. You are trying so hard.

People love the idea of a victim standing up for themselves. When they do? Suddenly it just becomes “they are both a mess”

What planet do you live on? When a battered housewife (oh no I'm a sexist now) stands up for herself, I don't think she's a mess. What kind of fucked up logic is that? I'm happy for her.

But it is also worth understanding that retaliation is a thing.

Yes, it's a good thing when you are being oppressed. You are typing lots of words in defense of people not defending themselves. I'm not sure what's wrong with your brain, but you should fix it or find someone that can help you fix it.