Ignoring the sexism bordering on mild misogyny:

We've literally seen how this plays out. Walz calls trump "weird". fuckface calls for the murder of Kamala. "Both sides traded barbs".

The vast majority of christians don't actually hate The Gays. They insist "I don't approve of your lifestyle but I tolerate you"/"I don't respect or tolerate you but I also don't want to consider myself a bigot". It is why "bathroom bans" and the like are so popular. They are a direct attack on people's very self and a way to remove their ability to function in society but they also don't immediately seem like hate unless you think for even a few seconds.

But once The Gays are outright attacking christianity? Guess what? "Both sides traded barbs" becomes "They are literally coming to destroy your beliefs" and it is a literal holy war.

Or, to go back to your sexism: People love the idea of a victim standing up for themselves. When they do? Suddenly it just becomes "they are both a mess" or "they deserve each other" rather than "She finally struck back after her third visit to the emergency room".

Everyone wants to act. Not acting is the definition of helplessness. But it is also worth understanding that retaliation is a thing. The call of duty generation loves the idea of being heroic guerilla fighters who scream "wildcats" every five seconds. But it is worth looking at the actual "stay behind armies" and how so much of their equipment and doctrine was designed around resistance without ever pushing things far enough to lead to genocide and eradication. Whether that would have been successful is a very controversial topic but... that is the idea.