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A lot of trans people would disagree. Just because someone was forced to conform to their biological sex for years doesn't mean they felt that way on the inside.
Every trans person I know, without exception, prefers to refer to their pre-transition selves by their current pronouns and would take issue with the suggestion that they were still a boy/girl before becoming a girl/boy.
so "I/me/mine", right? :*P
Hah, got me there on a technicality.
An example though would be one friend I have who was telling me recently about a story from back when we were in high school. When quoting someone who was talking about her, she chose to use her current pronouns and current name even though realistically those wouldn't have been used at that time. Even if it's less "accurate" in a historical context, it's a positive affirmation to be able to say "this is who I have always been, even if I couldn't share it publicly at the time."
And it also helps those in the present who may have never known her back then and might wonder who she was referring to. A bit like how one might talk about the childhood of Lady Gaga and not the childhood of Stefani Germanotta.
Also in the case you described when she talks to someone who didn't know her pre-transition it would be a forced outing using the old pronouns and deadname.