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[–] Jerkface@lemmy.world 28 points 2 months ago (16 children)

No it's more likely that my emotionally and financially abusive car stealing, gaslighting, steal-money-out-of-my-wallet-while-I'm-sleeping parent just didn't want to be held accountable for her shitty "parenting." Also the multiple expert evaluations that say I'm not diagnosably autistic. But I guess I should listen to the guy that analyzes people's mental health based on a four sentence internet post uninvited, right?

[–] Sinaf@lemmy.world 53 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (6 children)

But I guess I should listen to the guy that analyzes people's mental health based on a four sentence internet post uninvited, right?

I think you don't really mean these words and you are subconsciously projecting the feelings you feel towards your mother onto an unknown person on the Internet.

Here's some cocain to calm your nerves.

[–] candyman337@sh.itjust.works 43 points 2 months ago (5 children)

Yes it was a genuine innocent inquiry. Didn't mean to offend.

[–] Shelena@feddit.nl 6 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I can see that you did not mean anything offensive by it. However, I have had similar things happening to me (misdiagnosis of autism so my parents did not have to take responsibility for tramuatising me) and I might have responded similarly.

When someone imposes a diagnosis on you that is wrong and does it for selfish reasons, when you are a child, it is very harmful. It hurts your feeling of self worth to the core and makes you constantly question yourself and who you are. It takes a lot of strength to stop the selfdoubt and finally conclude that you do not have autism and that what you feel and think is correct and not what you have been told all your life by the people you were supposed to be able to trust. That is really a very difficult thing to do, because the anxiety that something is "wrong" with you after all is always there. It takes courage.

If you have been struggling with questioning yourself in this way and if you state that you are not autistic after all, then it is difficult to deal with a response suggesting that you might be wrong. That is almost painful.

I know that you did not mean it that way. There is no way you could have known if this is something you have no experience with. Also, I cannot say something about why someone else responds in a certain way. I might be wrong about that. However, when I read your question, I immediately got quite triggered as well. I guess I just wanted to explain where a response like this can come from in some cases.

[–] candyman337@sh.itjust.works 9 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I see now how my question could be taken as a malicious one, I do apologize, thanks for explaining.

[–] Shelena@feddit.nl 5 points 2 months ago

No apologies necessary, in my opinion. You did not mean anything negative and you did not know. I just wanted to explain the other side.

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