Selfhosted

I do, and it's probably the main reason I started self hosting.

Managing parents estate made me want to get my shit in order for my own kids in the event I die. There's a good chance that if I die, my cell phone is gonna die with me. And commercial services from Apple, Google, banks, and other institutions are increasingly tied to a single cell phone as "identity." If you try to login on a device with no session cookies, they treat it as hostile, and do all sorts of oddball stuff that almost always requires the cellphone to access. And if you don't have that phone, it's incredibly hard.

By self hosting, I can choose to make access to that most of that data much easier for my family if I die and my cellphone dies with me. I don't expect them to continue self-hosting, but I do want them to have easy access to files so they can move them to some system they are comfortable with.

This is one of the reasons why I don't host other people's data. I'd consider this option if there was another technical person among users with whom I could share workload and risks like a sudden death.

I want to be buried with my treasure, and as a data hoarder I will have to leave instructions for writing it all to tape.

Since others were posting end of life style docs, here is another: https://www.erikdewey.com/bigbook.htm

I decided very long ago not to pollute the gene pool, so everything dies with me.

ETA: It's comforting to know that 10 people agreed with my life decision. /s LOL

If?

Nearly everything you possess will end up in a landfill or the ocean within 10 years of your death, this is no exception.

My will contains the master password for my keepass file, from there someone could theoretically handle everything.

hardware I'm giving to my sister most likely. Software? well that's definitly dying with me. I'm the only one in my family that has any form of technical skill required to keep services going. They won't know what to do with it.

The most I'm able to share is pictures and files.

https://github.com/potatoqualitee/eol-dr

Seems pretty thorough.

Bitwarden has a account custodian feature that will give my wife all the info she needs to access essential accounts and hardware, however, realistically the homelab will only continue to work until things start dropping - there is likely no easy recovery of crashes.

I haven't talked to my wife about it directly, you've reminded me this would be a good conversation to have, but the first thing she should do when the insurance money comes in is (after paying off the assassin) buy a bunch of dumb light bulbs and pay to print any photos she cares about in case our digital backups die.

No :/ my server will probably die with me. My people are going to complain why homeassistant isn't working, why automated lights don't turn on and why nothing has been added to the plex library in forever. Just not sure who they'll complain to lol.
At the end of the day, its my hobby and they'll just have to live with how it was before. The hardware will be there if anyone wants to start up their own thing, but I don't see it happening.

It’ll die with me. Albeit probably a slow death over a couple months, I have to be realistic here - none of my family members will care enough to keep anything running in the long run.

It’s the same fate your grandma’s unfinished knitted scarves and socks had a couple years ago.

There's a project on github just for this, I forget what it's called.

Basically they've developed a mechanism for providing instructions and access to security (usernames, passwords, etc).

I'll see of I can find it

I set a friend as an emergency contact for my Bitwarden vault, so he can request access, and if I don't deny it within 2 weeks he's granted access.

I'm also working on a kind of digital dead man switch. Basically, I'll make it so that you give it some last messages, which are assigned to groups of recipients. The service will send you an email at a specified interval (for example, every month) with a link in it. If you don't click on the email a few times, you're marked as dead and the last messages get sent out to their corresponding recipients.

My plan is using Shamir’s Secret Sharing (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shamir%27s_secret_sharing) to split my encrypted master password in 3: one for my wife, one for my mother and one for my best friend. In case I die, only 2 of those parts are needed to recover the password.

I've made a note in a paper notebook with my master password for the password manager for my wife, but she's totally uninterested in anything I do with my server - she tried to understand, but it didn't work. At least she'll have access to my emails and other stuff in case I die before her.

I figure by then, it will all be part of some AI training set one day. Hopefully my shitty writing and bad opinions poison the shit out of it.

When my brother's brother-in-law passed, he gave all that to my brother. Both on the high end of tech/self-hosting capabilities. I've come to the conclusion much of it wasn't worth it.

I'll be focusing on ensuring access to financial accounts is passed on cleanly. And I'm working on digitizing all remaining physical photo negatives, then planning how to share all digitally with family while still alive. Since I don't expect any to be interested in maintaining a server after I'm gone, I'm thinking I'll keep it simple and just give everyone an external hard drive with all the photos. It's up to them to do what they want with the drive. A copy to each sibling is increases odds it's survives for a generation.

I'll make project notes and plans available to anyone interested, but no hard feelings if no one is interested. And my music and movies can disappear for all I care. My tastes are pretty mainstream so I'm not thinking about archival value.

I should set up that bitwarden feature that lets people ask for access and they get it if you don't respond in a set amount of time.

I know of this project: Dead Man Hand

No, but this does interest me a lot, so... Will be keep a tab on this.

The part how they cloud technically access all relevant files, seems easy to me. As mentioned in other comments, just give someone or somewhere you trust your master password.

Virtually impossible, that my dear ones actually can make any use of this. They don't even know how to use a command line, not to mention how to decrypt a luks partition. In the end, they will get some linux friend to do this, copy all files on a nfts external drive and hook this up to a Windows machine. So glad, I don't have to experience this monstrosity anymore.

Realistically no. My wife primarily uses the ad blocking dns and smb file storage. I’ve built the server on FreeBSD so those should run near forever if I passed, and she knows she has until the server dies to find somewhere else to put her photos. Past that there’s a maintenance document next to the will, which includes everything up to how to replace drives on zfs, but I doubt she’d use it if I’m being honest.

https://media.ccc.de/v/2025-513-digitaler-nachlass-was-passiert-wenn-nerds-versterben

Its a talk by the CCC about this subject. I think there nicht be a translated Version somewhere..