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I don't think that we have enough information to draw that conclusion. It is a legit horrible experience though. I can't imagine what it would be like.
I can. Been there. Couple times. My foster brother and I used to hang out with a bunch of other kids from ages 8-14, and whenever someone had a bright idea for a game like that, completely unprompted would come "but I'm not kissing Dharmacurious." Shut fucking hurt. I never asked to play those games, never tried to join in. Would try my best to excuse myself before someone suggested a game like that. I didn't have my first kiss until years and years and years after I lost my virginity, because I only ever did hookups with random strangers online, because I never felt like I was even capable of being desired in anyway other than a quick lay. Being ugly sucks. It truly, honestly does. I shower religiously, I brush my teeth (which, somehow, I still managed to get fucked in that department). Still, I send a picture online, blocked. I'm not an Incel or anything, I don't think I'm owed a damn thing, it's just the reality of the situation. I'm a fun, interesting person, with a good sense of humor, thick skin, intelligent, caring, loyal to a fault, and all the other things my shrink has helped me realize. But no one gets to know that, because there has to be some physical attraction for someone to want to get to that point. Can't fault em for that. But being a bridge troll is lonely, and it sucks. And up thread someone suggested they should shower. That's a fucked up thing to say, you don't know their life. And I know green text=fiction, but this one rings fucking true for some of us.
As a kid I was the weird one. It wasn't my physical attraction, it was just my personality. I'm adhd as fuck and maybe also autistic, so I was hyper around others and couldn't really read situations/know when to stop talking. I got excluded more times than I can count because of that stuff. These days it feels like my social "success" comes from me muting myself and not having a good time.
I'm sort of the opposite, honestly. People tend to like my personality, but I get a sort of "villagers with pitchforks" reactions to my appearance. Haha. It's incredible how judgemental the world the is, and how you have to meet so many expectations to get through it. Any little thing off in the wrong direction and you can kiss that traditional life plan goodbye.
What kind of things do you enjoy that you're unable to engage in to have a good time?
I hear you, man. I've found that you just gotta find the right people. After meeting some people where I truly feel like I can be myself, I am now healing. I still struggle to like myself at times, but having people that love me helps.
It's not exactly what I enjoy that I can't do, it's just a general energy/enthusiasm switch. If I'm having a really good time, I usually make lots of comments, can be annoying to other people. I can also get very energetic or silly at times, or heated/invested in a discussion (basically an intensity problem). Unless they see through this and understand my core, they will always be annoyed and put off by that aspect of myself. It's hard to explain and is something I need to talk to my therapist a lot more about, lol.
Have you made many friends without face-to-face? Like, online friends, phone talking friends, etc? I imagine that's a good way to find real ones.
That's one I can't do. I feel like I have to be stoic all the time in person, because I'm a big guy, and I'm unattractive so I have to maintain something to be, idk, respected? I have to really know a person before I can allow myself to be silly around them. My last "boyfriend" cemented that in, too. He dumped me and said he couldn't deal with the "cutesy shit" took me a while to get past that one. Not the guy, so much. I felt like I had found something I never thought I'd have, and then ending it by saying that... Cut deep.
And I'm lucky on the friend front. I have a lot of long term friendships online, but I also have a few very close IRL friends, and I'm extremely close with my family.
Do you have anyone you can be passionate about things with?
No, I definitely get it. Maybe not exactly the same, but I have been traumatised enough to learn to present myself like an amicable, calm guy(masking culture, limiting my energy levels). I definitely need to get close to someone to allow that side of myself to get out, but sometimes it just comes out without my control if I really feel comfortable. But yeah, the comfort only comes out when I really trust someone.
One of my exes definitely cemented it in too. Shaming me for some behaviors 💀 Then, another ex praised my silliness, so it helped me come out of my shell a bit more. Nowadays I feel like I let out just enough to be a "fun, chill guy".
Sorry to hear about that cutesy shit comment. That really sucks. If it wasn't his thing, that's fine, but to bring you down for it is just a fuckin asshole move. (I'm a proud user of the :3 face lol, it just represents that cheeky cute emotion perfectly)
Glad to hear you have good connections. That's really what life is about I think. Building connections with others and building yourself up (knowledge, hobbies, wisdom, etc)
I do have my few IRL friends too. 2 really long term ones that have never failed me, another couple stray friends from jobs I've had, and most recently a group of musician friends I met last year. It's the kind of "guy friendgroup" connection I'd been lacking for many years, and they're all just as weird and hyper-knowledgable in their respective special interests lol. I just love people like that!
I'm sorry random Internet stranger. Kids are brutal and can surely crush anyone's ego without hesitation. And people telling you "to shower more" are just idiots with a nematode's mental capacity and the emotional spectrum of a black&white-tv that's out of black.
I don't know anything about your environment, but you will find that special someone. Most likely when you least expect it. With those mentioned qualities you're a steal. I, personally, would totally prefer a bridge-troll (your words) with character and true values over any empty peacock. The older i got the more obvious that became.
I hope you'll find your lady. Everyone deserves to be loved. And your chances are way better being a troll than bring rich. That's a positive hm? 😉
Agreed. I think people who blame anon for being in pain fail to see the problem with the behavior of the selfish, stupid people at the party, which is ironic.
I love that elsewhere, someone says anon should have taken more showers, then we have "stinky" with this insightful post.
I don't think it's anything more than coincidence, but it makes my brain feel good.
I can't say I've had the exact same experience, but I did get picked on by a bunch of "friends" at a birthday party. Tried to play truth or dare and I was a really honest, open kid (mostly), so when it was my turn I said, "truth" and someone asked me if I'd ever kissed a girl, and I said, "no". They decided that I had to be lying so they asked me a different question, "have I ever had a crush on a girl" to which I also said, "no". They didn't believe that either, and one of them jokingly asked, "have you (me being AMAB) ever kissed a boy?" That was coming from a kid in a really conservative Christian family, and it caught me off-guard. The truth was that no, I had never kissed a boy either, but the question made me hesitate. They lept on that.
Honestly, kids can be horrible little creatures. They learn it from their parents, all those little prejudices that the grown ups hold but hold back on to be polite or to fit into changing worlds, they get magnified in children who don't know who and what and why, only that authority figures have taught them through their actions and the words they don't even realize the kids are paying attention to.