Relying on your own personal anecdotes to prove a point is not helpful, same with asserting that someone has had to live in a socialist country to understand socialism. The truth is that socialism isn't oligarchy. All socialist countries have had governments, yes, but these are democratically elected. Further, socialism doesn't require "equal" distribution of resources, Marx railed against the "equalitarians" that argued as such.

Moreover, you seem to be confused on Marxism. Communism is a global system, countries like Cuba, the PRC, or the former USSR are examples of socialism. Socialism is a transitional status towards communism, it's the process of sublimating property until production is fully collectivized and thus society becomes classless, and this can only be complete globally.

As an example, wealth inequality in the USSR was around a difference of five times from the top and the bottom, while in Tsarist and capitalist Russia that number was hundreds to thousands od times higher.

Overall, people are being accused of being a liberal because their understanding of socialism and communism are severely lacking, and myopic.