I see a pretty stark difference between people who married young and had kids right away, vs people who married young and enjoyed their time for a while before having kids. The ones who had kids seem weird to me, never got a chance to goof off in their 20s and figure out who they are. The ones who waited feel more normal. But that's just my experience.

[–] Alivrah@lemmy.world 2 points 9 months ago (1 children)

This is the main point here, IMO. A child is a huge responsibility and the early 20s is a period of life you're still figuring things out. Culture also plays a role here; where I'm from, people are deciding to live together (without having kids) for a couple of years before formally marrying.

[–] BolexForSoup@kbin.social 10 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

Having a kid in your 20s is not for you, but you can’t just assume that that is the case for everyone else.

I mean, let’s take this post: what is so magical about 24? Why not 25? Why not 23? I imagine the number was pretty arbitrary. It just sounded right to OP.

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