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[–] Rolando@lemmy.world 64 points 9 months ago (14 children)

Imagine the following scenario: you meet someone in college, and when you graduate at 22 you don't want to split up. They say sure, let's live together, but we need to get engaged; if it doesn't work out we can just break it off. After a year you realize your lives are much better together. You decide to get married but not to have kids until you're 30. If it doesn't work out you can divorce, but you sign a prenup and at least no kids would be involved.

If you both have clear and compatible career goals, that scenario saves you a lot of dating drama and gives you valuable support. I wouldn't call someone in that scenario "weird."

[–] ThatWeirdGuy1001@lemmy.world -2 points 9 months ago (2 children)

I think the main point here is people around those ages aren't fully capable of making those kinds of decisions in the first place.

There's a reason why most marriages end in divorce after all.

Get married before you have a clue. Get a clue after being married a couple years. Get a divorce because you realize you had no idea what you were doing.

[–] Lucidlethargy@sh.itjust.works 1 points 9 months ago (1 children)

This is 100% a data-driven fact. It can't apply to everyone, but it's a really great average.

Those who wait until after 25 have a 25% chance of not getting divorced.

[–] Francois@lemmy.ml 6 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

The way you phrased it is not quite what the study says.

They're not "25% likely of not divorcing" (which would mean there's a 75% chance of divorce).

They're "25% less likely of divorcing"

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