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[–] Grimtuck@lemmy.world 32 points 2 days ago (2 children)

I'm about to have my first child at 48. I wasn't ready before now.

[–] Eq0@literature.cafe 11 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Pardon me asking (and feel free to ignore): Isn’t that scary to have a child so late in life? I’m worried about the impact my age will have on my relationship with my kids and I’m roughly a decade younger.

[–] Grimtuck@lemmy.world 13 points 2 days ago (2 children)

I just don't see the point in worrying about it. I haven't been scared since I found out and Idon't think I will be now that's it's about 4 weeks away. I've been too busy buying and planning things and then I'll be too busy changing nappies.

I'm just going to get on with it and not worry about it. The good news is that I'm already waking up in the middle of the night for a pee so I'm somewhat practiced at that.

[–] PlasticLove@lemmy.today 0 points 15 hours ago

That doesn’t sound fair to the child?

You’ll be barely up to keep up with them by the time they’re 10 you’ll be 60 and close to retirement. You’ll probably die of old age before they ever get married or to have you around to help them figure out adulthood.

[–] Eq0@literature.cafe 7 points 2 days ago (1 children)

[same disclaimer] Was it planned?

[–] Grimtuck@lemmy.world 14 points 2 days ago (1 children)

We were trying, yes.

Also back to your relationship question that I probably didn't answer. I already know someone in advanced age with a kid and they have a great relationship. I haven't even considered it. As long as I live a while longer I'm sure I'll have a healthy relationship. I'm quite a chill person and young at heart and genuinely don't see that as an issue.

If anything I think it might even be better! I genuinely think it will be beneficial that I'm not trying to grow up at the same time as my kid and can act as a caring and relaxed parent without any additional stress.

[–] ink@sh.itjust.works 10 points 2 days ago

Congratulations, and I wish the very best for you, your child, and your loved ones! :)

[–] ryedaft@sh.itjust.works 2 points 2 days ago (2 children)

200 years ago people also had kids quite late.

And we live so much longer than even 40 years ago. Life is so much better and safer now.

[–] PlasticLove@lemmy.today 1 points 15 hours ago* (last edited 15 hours ago)

200 years ago people were having kids at 15-16

[–] Eq0@literature.cafe 2 points 2 days ago

But the nuclear family is much younger, so today’s kids rely much more heavily and directly on their parents with respect to kids 200 years ago. The “village” build around multigenerational housing has disappeared, making the age of parents a much bigger factor than earlier on

[–] rockerface@lemmy.cafe 4 points 2 days ago

I'm 29 and definitely nowhere near ready yet. This gives me hope