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It's clearly a passion project but even his goal of it paying for itself is highly unlikely. More importantly, making sure those homebound, living in rural areas, using an android phone etc. are persona non-grata is just such a douchecanoe move. There's a lot of ways he could have incentivized IRL contact without telling everyone not able to do that that or running an android phone that they're not welcome on the platform.
It reminds me of Fetlife.
If you've never heard of Fetlife, it's a fetish social network. At least that's what it markets itself as. In reality, everyone on fetlife knows what it is.
It's a fetish dating site. And also a fetish hookup site.
But the thing is, lets say I'm a male between the ages of 18 and 65. And I want to find a woman, in my city, who is single, and into monogamy......and also a whole list of fucked up fetishes. Don't worry, these women would ALSO list these fetishes as interests so it's consentual.
As a fetlife user you can't do that. You can't search by gender. You can't filter by age. You CAN see who's available by city, but you literally get EVERYBODY in that city. It's more like getting a whole phone book, rather than a filtered search list.
So it just ends up being way harder to use than it should be. They claim it's to "protect women", but that's bullshit. Women are not these defenseless creatures who need you to break your whole search system to shield them from the world. Also, there's an easy fix for that. You add search opt out in your own personal settings. They already have the ability to limit who can message you, it would not be hard to add a checkbox that says "remove my profile from search".
I'd be good with that. I just want to search women in my area, who share my interests, are single and monogamous, and want to be messaged. The system they have makes that SUUUUUUPER hard.
Sounds like they are incentivizing people to make external search sites from scraped data, which means the users wouldn't be able to opt out. From your description I'd be pretty surprised if that doesn't already exist
There did exist some scrapers but they are fighting to keep those off the site. The first hurdle is that you need an account with a phone number to see anything on there. Makes it easier to ban anyone caught scraping or trying to do other shady shit.
Ah, that does make sense