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This sounds like the exact same argument my ex high school friends used to use when overusing the word "r*ped" when playing video games because it's apparently "just a metaphor for a power dynamic".
(Not the person who down voted you) There is a small difference between those things ๐ . Rape is not the same thing as fellatio, using fellatio in a metaphor is not making light of a trauma caused by sexual abuse. I'm not even sure how its homophobic given it doesnt specifiy the gender of the person sucking someone's dick. Its not a specifically gay sex act, people give straight blowjobs all the time (I, as a masc identifing person have given straight blowjobs)
If someone prefers folks don't use "fellate" as a euphemism for indulgent gratification of another person in a metaphorical sense, similar to "sucking up to someone", "patting eachother on the back", or licking boots (though thats specifically about doing so to authority, so not really applicable) thats valid, I can respect that.
It didn't occur to me someone might not appreciate that usage of the term, and if thats not within reasonable behavior for this space in the eyes of moderation thats okay- deleting the comment and then leaving a reply implying I said something horrific, however, is less cool. Thats a dick move, and pretty transparently a bad faith behavior that feels intended to punish me for voicing frustration with .ml
Which again, I've had many positive interactions with folks from the instance. But it is certainly not without its frustrations and outright unpleasantness at times.