I'm sure its easy when you're a tall, handsome dude. If you're just the chubby dude whose not quite 6ft tall, yeah, good luck. I always worry I will come off as a creep. I'm just lonely and think they're swell.

[–] Obi@sopuli.xyz 8 points 7 months ago (2 children)

I'm turning into these people that give advice no one asked for, but as of this morning I'm 20kg down on my weight loss journey, only 3kg from my initial goal and about to transition from intense calorie control to lifting weights and growing muscle, so it feels right.

If you do want to lose the chub, I strongly suggest simply tracking your calories and adding even just a little bit of sport weekly. I didn't do much sport at all yet because the low calories mean low energy, also it's been much easier for me to control calories than exercise, because it's something I simply need to not do, as opposed to having to take time out of my day (though I'm now getting at the point of the journey where this is gonna have to change).

I went for MyFitnessPal for calorie counting though there are better options like Chronometer with only verified foods but if you're not in the US like me it doesn't have everything, MFP has everything but it's user submitted, so just double check with the labels.

I also started weighing in every morning (but don't be too bothered by daily figures, look at weekly averages instead). Smart scale is great for this.

I also have a Garmin watch to track my vitals and exercising but seriously, calorie/macro control was by far the number one thing that helped. It feels like I was blind to food my whole life and only now finally learning about what goes into my body, just having the vision/knowledge of what I eat and drink makes all the difference. Also helped me kick my alcohol usage way down. Drinking 2.8L of water a day also helps with the cravings.

Anyway that's me out, putting the soapbox away now :D

[–] Dymonika@beehaw.org 5 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Congrats!

Drinking 2.8L of water a day also helps with the cravings.

What if it doesn't for some of us, though?

[–] Obi@sopuli.xyz 2 points 7 months ago

There's always cocaine... I'm kidding!! But the truth is yeah if you go hard on limiting calories, there's gonna be moments you're feeling the hunger, it's natural, you should feel that in your life that's the normal way. It helps a lot to focus on foods that provide good long term sustenance, proteins, healthy fats, and the right amount of carbs (that's where the app comes in).

[–] Acters@lemmy.world 3 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Sounds like good advice, but most guys with chub can still land a woman.

Is it more important not to do it at the workplace or other non-social settings. Also, looking nice, (think about having it done professionally) is a must for good impressions, especially first impressions. Along top of that, just training the charisma without worrying about someone's feelings being hurt is a great way to practice. Usually with friends, but can be done with random people as long as you pick your battles and don't push them aggressively. Not greatest advice, but making friends, being funny, and standing your ground on your beliefs will land you the right one. Don't chase a pretty girl. That's just asking for trouble.

[–] Obi@sopuli.xyz 3 points 7 months ago

Oh yeah for sure, physical appearance should be pretty low on the list of considerations in your partner unless you're just shallow or looking for one night stuff. I'm happily married so I'm not even doing it for women at all (well, for one woman I guess), more for my health and making sure I'm able to play/do stuff with my kid and a bit for my work also. I was just riding high on progress this morning, saw the word chub and just went off lmao.

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