But I was giving a critic to the idea that women wouldn't be able to freely consent due to some vague sense of possible abuse from a man. Because that would imply that e.g. if a man chains himself on a board and give a woman a cat o' nine tails, the woman couldn't freely choose to hit him as the man is still a source of some vague sense of possible abuse in the future as a consequence of her decision. Which isn't completely wrong, of course there are women to are in such a situation, but as a general condition, it heavily implies that women can't consent to anything, even to anything that would less the threat of abuse. Which is simply insulting to women, and invalidating any woman's opinion on these things, especially those who prefer something that it viewed as possibly abusive.

Like take people seriously, and support the creation of supportive structures for those who need them to get out of a situation where leaving is difficult.

[–] Rustmilian@lemmy.world 3 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

Yes, I understand. And it's indeed a possible situation. But have you ever heard the phrase "they're more afraid of you then you are of them"? Women have more social power than they realize, and the fear is due to specifically manipulative female individuals abusing that social power, even to the extent of violence. So the fear of abuse is a mutual feeling. There will always be bad people. Just please use your power carefully and honestly and work together to reduce evil people. Imo, addressing social economical problems will help greatly reduce the tensions between genders, and the only way to do that is by communicating in the first place.