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What on earth are you talking about?
There's nothing easier than just explicitly checking in whether you've read the signals correctly or not before making any creepy moves.
Tip #1 for flirting: Make sure that the other person has a very easy way out of anything they might not like. Then you know they're enthusiastically consenting for whatever comes next.
Well yes, absolutely. Consent is paramount and enthusiastic consent is the best kind. Bad choice of hyperbole on my part, I'll admit.
But even so, if you're not conventionally attractive or charismatic, even just checking can result in getting treated like a creep. The people who constantly say "they worst they can say is no" have likely never gotten "eww, no" as a response before.
But if you have, especially more than once, you kinda just get used to assuming that's the default answer. That's kind of what I was getting at.
I'd rather just not have to guess.
Yup, I mostly just assume everyone except my wife doesn’t really want anything to do with me and that I’m probably a giant creep to everyone else, so I don’t make eye contact and I try my best to ignore hints lest I get them wrong.
The hilarious part of all this is that I’m asexual and sex-repulsed, and I’m one of the least creepy and perverted people on the planet, but try telling my subconscious that.
I even check in with my wife sometimes and ask her if she still loves me. She does.
One of the most common things in threads about missed signals is people with social skills assuming that everybody is equally capable in social situations
Or that their own experiences socially, translate to others.
Looks DO matter, more so than most will admit. It's like being rich, they'll tell you they got rich by being smart or hard working, but will be willfully ignorant of the inheritance or luck they got.