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[–] mriormro@lemmy.world 32 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Eh, the Twitter person can go fuck themselves. Both partners deserve emotional support and comfort. That's what being in a partnership is about. Just because men are pigeonholed by toxic masculinity doesn't mean we don't need emotional validation.

[–] kautau@lemmy.world 6 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Yeah she sounds absolutely unhinged. I don’t expect my SO to manage my emotions for me, but I absolutely rely on her for emotional support, just as she relies on me for the same. Living is hard but we make it better by experiencing life together.

This post could be reversed in gender and be women who:

  • Expect to have NSFW social accounts and contacts while being in a committed relationship
  • Need constant emotional or financial support and are unable to manage their own emotions, usually in a parasitic manner of being overtly dependent
  • Think their relationships are a competition, so they both need to constantly “one up” each other on things like physique, income, accomplishments, and often compare their partners on that “scale” to other potential partners
  • Play hard to get and expect constant work from one side of the relationship while maintaining an aloof effort themselves
  • Support feminism and equality in a way that is “treat me like a queen and not an equal, showering me with gifts and affection purely because I am a woman”

I think everyone could benefit from following the lyrics in Bo Burnham’s song: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=llGvsgN17CQ Be a loving human toward your partner, and expect them to do the same

[–] VikingHippie@lemmy.wtf 4 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

Expect to have NSFW social accounts and contacts while being in a committed relationship

That's fine if both parties agree on it. Not everyone is into classic possessive monogamy.

Support feminism and equality in a way that is “treat me like a queen and not an equal, showering me with gifts and affection purely because I am a woman”

That's not feminism, though. That's just idealised misandry.

I think everyone could benefit from following the lyrics in Bo Burnham’s song: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=llGvsgN17CQ Be a loving human toward your partner, and expect them to do the same

Absolutely. That dude is wise way beyond his years, an excellent showman and hilarious to boot ❤️

[–] MotoAsh@lemmy.world 3 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

Yea, I think their point is she's just pointing at toxic types, not actually listing anything useful.

To make it worse, she worded one terribly that accidentally includes normal men depending on the reading.

This is poor communication on all levels. It doesn't convey anything except that she's a judgemental bitch, just like a male incel is a judgemental asshole.

She's communicating nothing about what she does want, only complaining about all aspects of a non-perfect life.

[–] VikingHippie@lemmy.wtf 2 points 10 months ago

Yeah. She doesn't exactly come off great lol