If you are running a conduit fork, what is your reason for leaving conduit, and if you are running conduit, why didn't you switch?
Conduwuit (predecessor of Continuwuity and Tuwunel) hard-forked from Conduit and introduced breaking database changes. That is a significant people don't easily "switch over"
It may be slow in development, taking a bit longer to implement a new feature, but not too much longer.
I would say its pace of development is very slow compared to the pace of Matrix in general. But if you only want the barebones features, you can use it.
Or am I missing something the others have to offer?
Feature-wise, Continuwuity offers email support, single-use registration token, policy server integration, user suspending, a ton more of admin commands, and some extra endpoints for Element Call. It is also actively working on OIDC-OAuth (so you can login with your IDP), and an ecosystem-wide Admin API. It also has an active community. I can't speak for the other fork.
Lastly, I don't think anyone "hate" conduit, the project is alright. It's just not the topmost option.