They don't need the hell scrubbed out of them like stainless steel and they don't cause cancer like Teflon. They also sear meats way better than any other pans.
Then as others have already said, it's fine to gand wash them if you'd like. You just don't grind/scrub off the carbonized oil layers.
Well what the ueck are you doing, because I sure have. We have a higher end ss pan and it's way worse than our cast iron skillets. Cook scrambled eggs in it and you'll need a power sander to get that thing clean.