Roderik

joined 1 year ago
[–] Roderik@lemmy.world 4 points 8 months ago

Worth every second

[–] Roderik@lemmy.world 1 points 8 months ago

For me, it has been incredibly difficult to find a properly privacy oriented Linux distro that also has ease of use.

First of all, most distros already offer adequate privacy. It'll always beat Windows or MacOS—that's for sure.

Second, ease of use and privacy don't go hand in hand. The more privacy you want the harder it gets to use. The reason I emphasised privacy is because it's more anonymity at that point.

What is it you want? If it's privacy you're after you can't go wrong with most distros and using FOSS. If it's anonimity be prepared to make a ton of sacrifices. Have fun putting your laptop in a Faraday bag, routing all your traffic through Tor, visiting eepsites, disconnecting your webcam and microphone, only wiring money with Monero, and so forth.

My point is, there is no best of both worlds.

[–] Roderik@lemmy.world 9 points 9 months ago (2 children)

Windows is shitty—don't get me wrong. But for all my coursework it's pretty annoying to do on Linux. Especially Office, and yes I am well aware it's a MS product and that Linux-support will likely never come. Though the limited online version of Office or LibreOffice don't quite cut it for me. Besides, running it with Wine or in a VM is too much of a hassle.

So "Switch to Linux!" is not really a solution for some. Let's hope that'll change in the future.

With that said, fuck Microsoft! I use NixOS btw.

[–] Roderik@lemmy.world 110 points 10 months ago (9 children)

Matter of fact, when you do get a raise you need to ask yourself if it's truly a raise. Inflation decreases the purchasing power of your salary, so if you get a raise you might be getting what was your initial salary.

[–] Roderik@lemmy.world 4 points 10 months ago

How many times have you swiped left on a girl just because you didn't think she was attractive?

Zero times. Always swiped right to increase my chance of getting matches. Didn't use some hookup app the likes of Tinder either. Used OkCupid since I heard good stories of it at the time.

I am well aware I may be an outlier. I know other men certainly do swipe left.

Though I agree with your points. After all, we're all thinking like troglodytes at times. We set unrealistic expectations. Think social media skewed our views of what's realistic and what is not.

[–] Roderik@lemmy.world 5 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Thank you for the lovely words. Really appreciate it! Sympathehic people like you are the true heroes without capes.

Everything you said resonated with me. This world is messed up, though we ought to be careful to let it define us. After all, we dictate our lives. I'll continue my quest of finding a lasting, functional, loving relationship.

Wish you a splendid New Year!

[–] Roderik@lemmy.world 20 points 10 months ago (4 children)

Don't let incel types cause you to shape your impression of why you're being rejected and turn it into a reason to hate a whole gender. Some of them have shitty standards, sure, but don't turn it into a rule about them. That leads to a downward spiral.

Absolutely, I agree. What I was trying to convey is that to me it never feels like I am enough. I know rejection is part of the game. However, it does hit hard—it affects my self-esteem. That is my problem and I need to work on that.

Still, I think you can agree there is a lot of competition going on. It's axiomatic that there are more men on dating apps than women. That leaves me at a disadvantage. To make matters worse, these apps are designed to judge someone based on looks. I am pretty fit, though nowhere near extremely strong. Just plain average.

I don't blame women for choosing the top percent of men on these apps (if the roles were reversed I would've likely done the same). Yet for someone the likes of me the only winning move is not to play.

Also, I am no misogynist. I don't abhor women for being rejected. They don't owe me anything. That is not to say that I don't find the process of finding a love companion difficult.

Wish you a wonderful Happy New Year bud!

[–] Roderik@lemmy.world 44 points 10 months ago (20 children)

Can't really relate, because I am only 24yo. Rant incoming;

Though I am sort of reluctant to try dating. In the past, I tried dating apps but they yielded no results. The women I matched with all ghosted me. Really did a number on my self-esteem. Who knows? Maybe I've got the face for radio?

And in all honesty, it feels like I've got to abide by ridiculous standards. The likes of being buff and tall, owning a car and house, a 6-figure salary, etc. I am still studying and trying to get my bachelor degree. All of these requirements put a ton of pressure on me. Is every woman looking for that? Of course not—that's not what I am implying. But from my personal experience it's certainly starting to feel that way.

Not surprised why redpill content is booming. They're not right, but there is truth to be found in some of their statements. In the end, I do introspection to identify my flaws and improve on myself. Nevertheless, even by doing all of that it feels like it's never enough.