There's quite a few TP-Link Models that can be flashed with open source firmware. The ones I helped friends and family with seemed to get software updates consistently after being discontinued.
This isn't an all out endorsement, but I've certainly seen worse.
No? Kinda? I'd say a Pixel (so Google hardware, yeah) with Graphene, and either self-hosted, or independent end-to-end encrypted cloud storage.
There are alternatives to the tech conglomerates.