It's not as black and white as you make it. The options aren't "perfect security" and "no security".
The option that most people that experience regular harassment want is "enough security to minimise the shit we have to deal with to a level that is manageable even if it's imperfect"
That doesn't work for vulnerable minorities. Manually filtering each shitty person after you step in their shit gets old. Coupled with the fact that not shutting down shitty people just means more shitty people are likely to turn up.
It's not sustainable
Queer people would be denied a chance to explore their identities and find peers if they lived in an unaccepting environment. This would be particularly damaging to closeted queer kids.
It's hard to think the author's concern is too genuine given that they're publishing on Substack
Friendica has been doing it longer than Lemmy or kbin, but it's a microblogging platform with a feature rich groups/thread aggregator implementation, rather than a groups focused platform like Lemmy and kbin.
The first time I tried to use this, I got audited, and then had to wait for longer than it would have taken to use the regular checkout.
I haven't tried again
Why even bother with that comment?