I would point to demoralized instead of lazy or stupid. If you talk to a lender they will immediately tell you about the programs as it’s in their interest for you to buy a home. A coworker and myself are military vets which lets us do the VA program. Even the finding a house to buy that isn’t paid for with cash 5-10% over asking is a nightmare. I lost 8 bids the first year trying. Also the prices for an home are just absolutely insane as starter homes don’t really exist anymore. New construction is focusing on McMansions and any 2 bedroom home is built in a 55+ community. Now I’m just venting.
Congratulations OP on the home. I hope to be in your shoes before I retire.
😢 don’t jinx us like that.