You "whatever gender" really care about what's under the pants and in the head. Since America has become a hypersexual and hedonistic society, its no wonder you do.
If your trans-metaverse is real, I'd be hearing about Ascetics claiming to be non-binary or some lols like that.
Yes, TOLERATING. That's what everyone was doing until they had enough of glorifying childhood traumas, instead of fixing it.