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I think people downvote quite more readily to show disagreement here, not in the least because downvoted comments don't get buried.

And, like, seriously. If you can't even muster thoughts and prayers, if you can't even muster being indifferent, can't muster simply not leaving a comment at all, but have to shout your disapproval of Ukraine existing as a sovereign state from the rooftops, you're an asshole. Unambiguously.

In this case, probably an attention troll.

I was a young man who was sexually assaulted, and by a woman, and I still know that doesn’t mean that it’s equal. It’s people like you who de-legitimize what I went through by making it seem like a game of Brinkmanship with women, when in reality it was the women I spoke to who got me through it, and the men who asked if it was possible for me, as a man, to be raped, and then mocked me for it.

And what I'm talking about doesn't invalidate that for even a second.

I can't relate to it because male culture doesn't work like that over here but, sure, it sucks. Still doesn't make sense to ignore psychological violence in the overall picture, though. I'd call the stuff the men display there narrative violence: They internalised that they can never be victims, and then accosted you with their self-perception.

They are reminded that if they wanted to talk about that, they were more than welcome, but a thread about a woman who was talking about her sexual assault isn’t the place to ‘what about us.’

This isn't one of those threads. Yet what did you do? We had a thing going on, there, there was banger music. Seriously if you haven't yet listen to it. Use the UK subtitles.

The only place I know on lemmy on which it's possible to have a whole thread about this is !mensliberation@lemmy.ca. Press doesn't like to talk about it, presumably because of a predictable "what about the women" pushback, so it never comes up in the news communities. Plenty of sociological research exists, though.

Also cool dodge of having your entire argument torn apart only to abandon it and switch to a different one.

I didn't want to go into the weeds of how BKA statistics are police statistics and in no way, shape, or form, suitable for anything without taking both the actual criminal statistics (cases brought to trial as well as convictions) and other surrounding factors such as under/overreporting, current force focus, etc, into consideration. According to police statistics, if you report your phone stolen and then retract that because you found it again, that's a theft.

I said women can talk about being victims of violence and men always do what you’re doing right now.

When men talk about being victims of psychological violence, what happens then? That they have been driven into depression, even into being violent, by an intimate parter, parent, or such?

How do people react? How did you react?

If you start a sentence with "all men" then you should take a step back and say "fucked-up men" or suchlike, is all I'm saying. That was even three words, not five. You can also say something like "men should speak up more often", that's a general call to action, and not a blanket verdict on individuals who might be reading it. The "yes all men" of this song (total banger btw).

This is a general norm I apply to everyone regarding every topic: Don't paint groups with broad, antagonistic, brushes. It never does any good, no matter who does it to whom or whatever the excuses are one might be able to come up with to justify it. The means are vile, the ends at best neutral, there's no benefit to be had.

Also side note at least according to the statistics over here in Germany partner violence, if psychological violence is taken into account, is almost exactly even among hetero couples and, in the overwhelming number of cases, mutual: Assholes hook up with assholes they just, statistically, express it differently. Things might very well look differently where you're from, another reason to not generalise.

When you're baking bread you want 1% of flour weight salt, plus minus a bit. For a quite standard bread made with 500g flour that's 5g, being off by "a couple of grams" ranges from none at all to twice as much. With a cheap kitchen scale there's no issue landing at 4.5-5.5g which is adequate. It's the rest of the ingredients you can and should adjust as needed but I'm still going to measure out 300g of water because that's the low end of what I want to put in.

But that's not actually the main issue, the issue is convenience up to plain possibility: The thing I actually weigh the most often is tagliatelle, 166g, a third of a pack, doesn't need to be gram-accurate just ballpark. Try measuring differently-sized nests of tagliatelle by volume, I dare you. Spaghetti you can eyeball, but not that stuff.

and it just went on and on trying to placate the inevitable furious white men in the comments section.

I think that's, usually, not necessary. The "going on at length" part, that is. People want to know you're not literally Andrea Dworkin, trying to actively reinforce the toxic AF "women are always victims, men are always perpetrators" narrative etc, but it takes like five words to make that clear.

Complications might arise when you're trying to simultaneously assuage hurt men and misandrists. I fear it's either "'kill all men' is toxic" or "'kill all men' is a valid expression of your anger, let it all out", there's no real space for compromise, there.

That all said your post and this reply probably wouldn't have happened on pixelfed so your point stands. Disengagement is perfectly valid.

Which is why NFTs work. They're refreshingly honest: They represent nothing of any kind of value, yet are valued. Something something fetishism.

Obvious troll is obvious.

Certainly!

It depends on the density of the ingredient, as well as the packing density, e.g. coarse vs. fine salt makes quite a difference.

Which is why it's silly to use volume in cooking which is why Americans are doing it.

Especially because programming is quite fucking literally giving computers instructions, despite what you believe keyboard monkeys do. You wanker!

What? You think “developers” are some kind on mythical beings that possess the mystical ability of speaking to the machines in cryptic tongues?

First off, you're contradicting yourself: Is programming about "giving instructions in cryptic languages", or not?

Then, no: Developers are mythical beings who possess the magical ability of turning vague gesturing full of internal contradictions, wishful thinking, up to right-out psychotic nonsense dreamt up by some random coke-head in a suit, into hard specifications suitable to then go into algorithm selection and finally into code. Typing shit in a cryptic language is the easy part, also, it's not cryptic, it's precise.

Oh great you're one of them. Look I can't magically infuse tech literacy into you, you'll have to learn to program and, crucially, understand how much programming is not about giving computers instructions.