Yes I understand that. I meant making an open call for volunteers on that aspect. Note that I'm in the same boat with my own FOSS project where it's not always easy to find the volunteers, but at least I don't have the same pressures as you face on this area. Not saying this is going to be an easy fulfillment, but it can be perhaps something to pursue.
How else would you say this?
Note that I'm AuDHD, so I'm not the best person to actually do these things. It's because I know my limitations that I have compensated by learning to notice these pitfalls in communication. I would also need someone to help me in the same situation as you.
Nevertheless, If I were to speculate, I wouldn't even go in that direction. From what I've seen, most people who know what they're doing in this aspect will just say something like "we acknowledge the issue and we'll do what we can to handle it asap" or whatever, just so people don't feel left in the cold, you know? Again, don't take what examples I write as the exact practice as it's not my area of expertise. I'm just (badly) parroting what I saw work better.
If I had the skills and the time, I would. But I'm an AuDHD tech-nerd, and vastly unsuited and unsuitable for such a role. The point is not to ask the specific people making this suggestion as a gotcha, it's to recognize there's a problem area which might be solved with another volunteer with the right skillset and take the steps to find one. To put it another way, you are already painfully cognizant that lemmy needs some DB attention. There's no point in asking people who bring up performance issues if they can do the necessary DB work, but there is a point in making an open call for people with DB optimization expertise. Does this make sense?