So many people see the prompt "what I'm looking for" and write "my keys".
A. That's not a terribly funny joke. It's fine, but not great.
B. It's not original.
C. You are wasting valuable space. Now the other person has a little less information to make a good opening message. Do you really want that many people messaging you about your keys? Really? Why are you setting yourself up for unhappy outcomes?
Most people don't think very hard about this, and hope it'll just work out.
Meetup.com ? They're still around.
One problem is users are selfish idiots. They won't go somewhere that doesn't already have a lot of users. They don't care that going there now moves it closer to having a lot of users, so in a few months it'll be good and vibrant. Most people can't even think an hour ahead.
Another problem is that there are many scammers and bad actors. You need to deal with them, and convince your real users that the scammers are dealt with.
Lastly, in this capitalist hellscape everything is expensive. How are you going to run a big service that's got low latency and high quality?
Yeah, it can be hard, but many things worth doing are hard. If you start with the bare minimum, the other person's first impression of you is that you half-assed it. Would you be extra interested in someone who's too half assed to even read your profile?
Put in the hard work. If you don't have the energy, don't use the apps. Half-assing it is just going to make you unhappy.
Except when actually trying to make a match, it’s more advantageous to literally swipe right on everyone to maximize matches and then unmatch if you match with someone you aren’t interested in.
This isn't true if their system punishes people for swiping "yes" on everyone. While I can't be certain that's the case, it seems very plausible it is. Swipe yes on everyone, your profile is down ranked, you don't get as many good matches.
Additionally, tinder and hinge only allow you a limited number of yes swipes per day. If you blow them on the first ten profiles, you're going to have worse results than if you spend a little longer looking at profiles.
Furthermore, on hinge, you can send a message with your like. Your chances of having a conversation and date go way down without a good message.
Thinking about my friend group, about half the people met their long term partners on dating apps. The other half is a mix of work and large social groups (eg: people who all go to certain kinds of music festivals)
I guess it varies by age and region.
While meeting partners through personal networks is still the most common kind of introduction, about one-in-ten partnered adults (12%) say they met their partner online. About a third (32%) of adults who are married, living with a partner or are in a committed relationship say friends and family helped them find their match. Smaller shares say they met through work (18%), through school (17%), online (12%), at a bar or restaurant (8%), at a place of worship (5%) or somewhere else (8%).
Some other sources I'm seeing say it's as high as 60% of couples met online.
I think dating apps are mostly used for hookups
This isn't especially true. Maybe Feeld and Tinder are less "serious", but the idea of dating apps is mainstream enough that you find all sorts of people and goals.
The capitalism and for-profit nature does make them all kind of suck, though
The top of the funnel I could see an argument for not putting a lot of thought in. You're just trying to get a pool of potential matches. (The apps are cruel for making you pay for this and not just giving you the list up front)
But once you do have a match, you have to put in some effort to stand out. A lot of people get a match and all they write is "hey", and then they go right into the trash. Why would I engage with someone who just wrote "hey" when I could instead talk to someone who read my profile and said something personalized?
Also swiping yes on everyone might do strange things to their recommendation algorithm. Unfortunately that's a black box, but I wouldn't be surprised if that puts you in some sort of chum bucket shadow ban situation.
And also, yeah, making you pay for basic filters is a trashy design. Match group should be broken up.
Most of the apps are trashy and don't optimize for good matches.
At the same time, many users half-ass using them, or deploy a variety of self-sabotage. (No, it's not that you're not tall or hot or whatever. It's more likely your impersonal message didn't warrant a response)
These two facts together mean a lot of people have truly bad outcomes.
Cool. Been on Pop!_os for a year or so. Not memorable issues. Plays games fine.
Microsoft should be broken up. Even if they walk back some of their AI slop, they're too big. They don't fail like they should for releasing a bad product.
Interesting. The inability to pan and walk around makes it very different. I liked "walking" around in geoguesser until I found a landmark or something, but I never played competitively or obsessively.
That's my point. They're doing a self-sabotage. Some of them will then complain that they're not getting good matches and messages, but a big factor is they're not giving potential good matches anything to work with.