oldfart

Same when setting up Nagios, after a time you learn fewer alerts is better

I remember these times, then I started buying hardware with 1st class Linux support. Highly recommend when it's time to upgrade!

If it turns out to be a Pi bottleneck, you can just re-encode the videos with a lower quality and h.264 codec.

I have a similar setup but my nfs server is not a mini pc.

You could try diagnosing if it's the network or if your mini pc is too busy (maybe out of disk i/o?).

If that's too hard, temporarly stop all other programs on the mini pc. Does it help?

Does streaming something from the internet to kodi work without freezes? If it's ok, then network is likely not the issue

Last but not least, does playing the same video from an USB stick work smoothly? If not, maybe the quality is too high or the video is x265

2nd comment with the same typo, are you using dictation?

For the what?

I went a step further and am paying an accountant to handle this mess, using my favourite libre email client to contact her. I know, it's a privileged position.

That's what I do, /music

Good for you for not having any problems mate! I'm sure this invalidates the parent poster's problems.

Any particular problems you're having or have you briefly used Pidgin in 2008 and think nothing has improved since then?

XMPP. It just works, requires very little resources, is stable and has decent clients.

I would go with Snikket instead of Prosody if I had been starting now.

Conversations on phones, Dino or Gajim on PCs, plus a conversejs install on the xmpp server, to allow web access when needed.

Conversations is easy for the family to figure out.

This whole thread is depressing to read, full of corporate bootlickers putting blame on you.