I’m a dad of four kids. I don’t yearn for the good old days, but I do wish social media companies were legally obliged to ensure kids are 16 before they let them into their platforms. There’s a tremendous amount of pressure to conform and it affects girls in particular. Most 14 year olds aren’t in my opinion mature enough to put a phone down when it starts to become a negative influence on them.
May I ask you a direct question: Are you raising teens? If so, what are your impressions of how they use their phones (for good and bad)?
If you’ve not raised kids during this decade, is it possible you may not have seen first hand what happens?
It’s not that simple. It just isn’t.
As a parent you’re in a constant balancing act between disconnecting from your teenager while also trying to provide guard rails to aid their maturity and growth. If you lose a battle in an area, their friends (and the wider world, because remember they have a phone) are more than happy to help raise them.
It’s always a compromise. You can stand your ground hard on area and that’s another shard of their life that you don’t have influence on and won’t hear about. Every channel between you and your kids have to be balanced between guidance and enforcement.