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Exactly. Mastodon-ish would be unsuitable as a server for a number of reasons: the loose, but still expected, character limitation; the lack of emoji responses; generally poor threading support; and the overall subscription feed-like model. OTOH, it's based on a follow-the-user model, which is nice. I'm less familiar with Friendica, but AFAIK that's also a follow-the-user model.

The issue with Federation is the general expectation that these are public places. You can lock them down, but that's not what they're designed for, and in my case, the risk of misconfiguration exposing a bunch of toddler pictures that the parents want to keep private is too high. I think of the server is federated-by-nature, then it must also be paranoid-by-default; I don't trust share-public-by-default projects to not introduced something in an upgrade that exposes data. At least if the base presumption of the developers is that all information is private by default, the risk is limited to true accidents rather than false assumptions.

ActivityPub is enticing. It's an exciting spec, and offers many client options. I'm worried only about those base assumptions.

Photoprism's app space is pretty bad, but there is an completely hacky yet reliable solution for Android:

1. PhotoBackup
2. The PhotoBackup server on your Photoprism server
3. A cron job that runs the photoprism import command every few minutes.

Since I've had this set up, it's worked as well as Google Photos ever did for keeping my phone snaps synced to the server. It's been more reliable than SyncThing for my data, reacting and syncing faster, and it doesn't mysteriously periodically just stop running like SyncThing.

I don't know if PhotoBackup is available for iOS, but if it is, it works a treat.

Honestly, I think Android is fucked for debugging stuff like this. I installed a program on mine and my wife's phones - different makes & models - and configured them exactly the same, including the app settings in the OS. Mine works perfectly and barely shows up in battery use, near the bottom. Her's drains her battery even when she's not using it, regularly running at 50% of total battery consumption.

With Android YMMV is the rule, rather than the exception. There's just too many variables.

It's the main way I sync my phone.

I have a different app for photos, but SyncThing on my phone, and on my desktop, and again on one of my home servers, do most of the download and data syncing.

Occasionally I'll have to manually run SyncThing; I'm not certain that Android is reliably starting it after reboots, but for the most part it just does it's thing really reliably. There is a lag; it can take a few minutes for changes to sync - it's not immediate. For me, this isn't a problem, and I'd rather that than a battery suck, so I haven't messed with it.

Probably. It depends on the device, because there's no standard dictating this, but I would guess most routers reserve reserved IPs.

Oh yeah. It still seems to be a preferred option. Dependency doesn't seem to be an issue, although tolerance does. Not everyone has quite OP's reaction, although it's not uncommon.

Nothing wrong with having a key pair, but yeah, most of the content in Nostr is unfortunately cryptocurrency related.

Yeah, despite the strong anti-crypto sentiment on Lemmy, this is exactly the problem that projects like Nostr is trying to solve by integrating Lighting as a first-class payment system in the ecosystem.

Services get paid for by one of four ways:

• Harvesting and reselling of user data. Which is wildly unpopular, and why a lot of people are on Lemmy and not Reddit or Facebook.
• Ads. Which is also unpopular and again why people come to services like Lemmy
• Pay-for-service, which is what you're suggesting, only via crypto, which is easier than accepting credit card transactions, and safer for users.
• The hosted paying for it out of the goodness of their hearts. So, charity. Sometimes there's corporate charity, and that's nice, except for the potential for money coming with strings attached, now or eventually.

Someone always pays; its expensive to host a popular instance. People suggesting you should host for free are selfish freeloaders, so know that some people understand that hosting costs, and sympathize with with your desire to offset that cost.

I like the volunteer micro-transaction model. Those who can afford to pay some amount for good service, and hopefully this provides welfare for those who can't afford to pay. But the cryptocurrency space is a mess at the moment, and an economical currency (probably proof-of-stake rather than proof-of-work) needs to gain some traction, and overcome a lot of ignorant bigotry.

To be fair, it is a very long-winded post. I think it's not an uncommon use case, though, and so deserved a robust sketch of the desired solution; Farmville and chat are sideshows, and what the people left on Facebook are really there for are the Walls.

There are some excellent apps out there, and by and large they look and work better than commercial apps, IME. So I disagree with the assertion that I have to stay with commercial software.

What I was asking for, in my post, was not which apps have better UX than Facebook, but rather which of the very many OSS, federated (although, not necessary for my use case), self-hosted platforms fit the specific use, and ideally with a straightforward iOS mobile app. Doesn't have to be pretty; just has to be able to quickly take and post photos to a private channel/community/wall.

Circles really is quite nice in all respects. I think they're hindered by their choice of backend. I've been using Matrix for years, and key management has always been a hot mess. I wouldn't be surprised if the issues we encountered were related to Matrix's god-awful and buggy PK negotiation & management process.

Greater opportunity, yes; however, cash is still legal tender in the US and it used to be illegal to not accept it as payment (this may have changed). And, as the payer, make sure you get a receipt so they can't screw you and if the landlord doesn't pay taxes, you're not culpable - it's their responsibility, not your's.

Cash is fine. The receipt is important, though, for a number of reasons. Not many people are going to go withdraw $1,100 just to pay rent, unless they're getting a discount for cash, which is a good indication there's some tax dodging going on.

Even if you trade sex for rent, get a receipt saying you paid your rent.

Making it an excellent bargain.

However: it doesn't sound as if she didn't accept only because she wanted to be faithful; it sounds as if she was upset by the experience. So, fuck anon. He can go see if the landlord will accept something from him, instead.