I never specified, I think, and probably wasn't too clear on it myself. Thanks for your insights, I'll try to take them to my configuration now.
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This is exactly the type of answer I was looking for. Thanks a bunch.
So but in that way, having a proxy on the LAN that knows about internal services, and another proxy that is exposed publicly but is only aware of public services does help by reducing firewall rule complexity. Would you say that statement is correct?
Right, I agree with proxy exploit means compromised either way. Thanks for your reply.
I am trying to prevent the case where internal services that I don't otherwise have a need to lock down very thoroughly might get publicly exposed. I take it it's an odd question?
Re "bouncer": Expose some services publicly, not others, discriminated by host with public dns (service1.example.com) or internal dns (service2.home.example.com), is what I think I meant by it. Hence my question about one proxy for internal and one public, or one that does both.
Right, I could have been more precise. I'm talking about security risk, not resilience or uptime.
"It’ll probably be the most secure component in your stack." That is a fair point.
So, one port-forward to the proxy, and the proxy reaching into both VLANs as required, is what you're saying. Thanks for the help!
The services run on a separate box; yet to be decided on which VLAN I put it. I was not planning to have it in the DMZ but to create ingress firewall rules from the DMZ.
One proxy with two NICs downstream? Does that solve the "single point of failure" risk or am I being overly cautious?
Plus, the internal and external services are running on the same box. Is that where my real problem lies?
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Here's the docker stats of my Nextcloud containers (5 users, ~200GB data and a bunch of apps installed):

No DB wiz by a long shot, but my guess is that most of that 125MB is actual data. Other Postgres containers for smaller apps run 30-40MB. Plus the container separation makes it so much easier to stick to a good backup strategy. Wouldn't want to do it differently.
This is the setup I have (Nextcloud, Keepass Desktop, Keepass2android+webdav) and k2a handles file discrepancies very well. I always pick "merge" when it is informing me of a conflict on save. Have been using it like that for years without a problem.
Edit: added benefit, I have the Keepass extension installed in my Nextcloud, so as long as I can gain access to it, I have access to my passwords, no devices needed.
Page loading times, general stability. Everything, really.
I set it up with sqlite initially to test if it was for me, and was surprised how flaky it felt given how highly people spoke about it. I'm really glad I tried with postgres instead of just tearing it down. But my experience is highly anecdotal, of course.
You can do batch operations in a document view. Select multiple documents and change the attributes in the top menu. Which commands are you missing?
This is a good hint, I'm going to take a look at that. Thank you!