volvoxvsmarla

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[–] volvoxvsmarla@lemm.ee 15 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Is body dysmorphia out of someone's control? Is mental illness? Is being raised in a toxic society and being manipulated to never feel good enough?

You allow yourself way too much grace if you think you can judge a person's appearance on the fact whether a person is responsible for their appearance or not. Even with plastic surgery. At some point in their lives they felt like they wanted to change something about their look. For what reasons, you don't know. Why they went as far as they did or whether something was botched, you also don't know. Whether they are happy or not with the results, you also don't know.

It's her responsibility because she did this willingly and agreed to it is such a short sighted and black and white way of thinking. Even if she did, even if she likes the result and it is as intended, it is not your place to body shame her or anyone at all. The best case scenario is that you are just bashing someone's aesthetic choices based on your preferences. More likely you are adding insecurity to a vulnerable person (because all of us are vulnerable if we're being honest).

So maybe try to be kind the next time. If you think it looks awful, keep it to yourself. We have so much negativity and judginess going around already.

[–] volvoxvsmarla@lemm.ee 2 points 3 months ago (2 children)

Ok as someone not from the states, wtf are boneless chicken wings?

[–] volvoxvsmarla@lemm.ee 10 points 3 months ago

I just don't want to be homeless when I am old. That's all I want. Having food and housing. A two room apartment for me and my husband would be nice. If I can use the public transport on top of that, I'm all set. A three room apartment would be a luxury and being able to go out every once in a while would be absolutely astronomical.

(I also want to have healthcare but I am in Germany so I got that going for me which is nice. )

[–] volvoxvsmarla@lemm.ee 3 points 3 months ago (2 children)

I was thinking about not donating to charity but buying stuff directly and asking them for support to ship it. Basically that makes you buy and not gift. If you buy 1 gigaton of rice for Ethiopia (I have no clue how many people a gigaton of rice would feed and I also have no clue whether Ethiopians need any rice) from Costco, well, then you have spent the money on it. Fuck it, maybe buy a boat. A ferry to ship it all directly. Buy land and don't gift but let workers work there. For free. For eternity. Oh you happen to pay them 50 times the average salary of their country? Well you're probably a bad businessman but you're not gifting. Pay the lawyers to make a bulletproof testament where you explicitly state that these poor fellas will never own the land but will for eternity be able to use it for free until the sun explodes.

And then bribe. Bribe away the heartache, bribe away the pain. Bribe the SCOTUS to retire. Bribe Putin to stop the war and fuck off. Bribe Trump to fuck off. Bribe Musk to get a vasectomy and fuck off. I mean you're basically just lobbying at that point but we all know that that's bribing and not gifting.

[–] volvoxvsmarla@lemm.ee 11 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (6 children)

It is not about being rich or super rich. It is about climbing the hierarchy being an exploitative act in itself. If you dream of creating your own business you will - you have to, basically by default - do this by exploiting other people on the way up. Your success and you becoming "mildly rich" is always built on the backs of others.

Edit: just to be clear, I am fully aware that in the greater scheme of things, a person earning 30k or even 300k is not the enemy of someone earning 25k. Obviously we need to get rid of pervertedly excessive wealth. Having 300k-30k-25k hating on each other distracts from the bigger problem.

But at the end of the day, and I say this with as little moral judgement as possible, as soon as one person controls another one's salary and undercuts it for their own profit, we are in a system in which success is achieved via exploitation. And this is the case in 99.9% of work environments.

[–] volvoxvsmarla@lemm.ee 3 points 4 months ago

Only the parallel experience will fully submerge you into the lore!

That's what David Lynch said

[–] volvoxvsmarla@lemm.ee 14 points 4 months ago (7 children)

It might be helpful if you finished one book first before you start another.

[–] volvoxvsmarla@lemm.ee 4 points 5 months ago

Just to be clear, I brought the toddler, they didn't provide the toddler

[–] volvoxvsmarla@lemm.ee 17 points 5 months ago (4 children)

For real, fuck ICE. My fully booked evening train got cancelled after we had already boarded, the next two that day were fully booked as well, I had to find an airbnb with a toddler and travel the next day, and they replaced just half of the ticket price because I cOuLD HaVe tAKeN AnOtHer TrAiN

On the other hand their child merch is cute af

[–] volvoxvsmarla@lemm.ee 1 points 5 months ago

The funny thing is as long as you have a small kid with you - doesn't even have to be a baby, just stroller-age - you can bring anything. I'm not even talking about a sealed bottle of water - which, to me, would kind of make sense with the regulations - but all of the sudden your normal 500ml bottle with water, juice, or whatever, is fine. A thermo can with boiling hot water inside? Sure, no problem.

[–] volvoxvsmarla@lemm.ee 5 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Man, a guaranteed 5 mins of a quiet break and coffee that I don't have to bring myself sounds kinda nice

[–] volvoxvsmarla@lemm.ee 1 points 5 months ago (3 children)

That's an interesting take, wanna tell me more? (I'm sick right now and my brain cells don't function well enough to think for myself but that's unironically an interesting take)

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