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Anon tries to understand his coworker (sh.itjust.works)
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[–] sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 2 points 6 days ago (1 children)

That's just how social expectations are. I recommend you go ask a handful of single men you know (i.e. coworkers) whether they'd consider a 1:1 outing with a woman to be a "date." I'm guessing most would say yes.

[–] JackbyDev@programming.dev 0 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Context matters: they're coworkers.

[–] sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 2 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Exactly, they're coworkers where OP isn't certain if they were flirting or just being friendly, and other coworkers confirm she's flirting. To me that means:

  • they don't have a good enough relationship to tell the difference, so probably not "friends"
  • other coworkers don't seem to experience the same thing
  • claims to not have other friends (surely she'd mention a BF, no?)

So to me, that sounds very much like she's flirting, so it's totally understandable for OP to consider it a date.

[–] JackbyDev@programming.dev 2 points 6 days ago

Facts:

  1. Anon intended for this to be a date.
  2. Anon never said this was a date.
  3. Anon never asked if she was single.