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Anon thinks there is a bicurious double standard (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 5 days ago by Early_To_Risa@sh.itjust.works to c/greentext@sh.itjust.works

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[–] DrivebyHaiku@lemmy.ca 13 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Dude... Bi people still do monogamy and a lot of them don't want polyamory or cheating. If you have a problem keeping to a single person that's a you thing, don't project it onto others.

Calling it "abuse" is really fucking weird.

[–] Gullible@sh.itjust.works -3 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Apologies for copy pasting but,

To be clear, this paragraph where I state that it’s largely bigotry and insecurity that drives potential partners away, it read as though it was written about me and my specific perspective on my dating bi people?

[–] DrivebyHaiku@lemmy.ca 3 points 4 days ago (1 children)

It was more your entire second paragraph that hinges on the idea that just because bi people are potentially attracted by both sexes that it is unfair and "abuse" to expect bi folk to desire monogamy or make monogamy work. That's a pretty old fashioned form of biphobia that projects that a bi person is either incapable of being satisfied by any one person like a straight or gay person is or that they are more likely to stray or be a problem for their partners.

It isn't abuse to expect a partner to be faithful.

Some bi people cheat or go in for polyamory because some people cheat or go in for polyamory regardless of gender or sexually . Bi people are not especially predisposed. Projecting your own wandering eye and assuming that is a more universal problem for people of a different sexuality that negates their viability in a form of romantic relationship isn't cool.

[–] Gullible@sh.itjust.works 1 points 4 days ago (1 children)

That was my point. I get the impression folks here haven’t dated immature people before

[–] DrivebyHaiku@lemmy.ca 1 points 3 days ago

If that was your point you did not elucidate it well.