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You're just a kid, how would you know what you want for the rest of your life? (lemmy.world)
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[–] Tristaniopsis@aussie.zone 10 points 2 years ago (4 children)

At 53 with a partner and two kids, I am currently in deep, deep depression wishing that I’d married the girl I split up with at 24.

[–] Custodian1623@lemmy.world 9 points 2 years ago (1 children)

no shame in therapy if you haven't been

[–] Tristaniopsis@aussie.zone 4 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I’ve been for other issues but it’s more or less all the same: “pull yourself together, stop XYZ”

[–] dulce_3t_decorum_3st@lemmy.world 4 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Have you tried turning it off and on again?

[–] Tristaniopsis@aussie.zone 2 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

Thought about turning it off, plenty of times. Off. Right off. Like unplugging it completely.

[–] Baphomet_The_Blasphemer@lemmy.world 4 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Well, for whatever it's worth, this internet stranger is happy you're still here. As long as you're here, it can get better.

[–] Tristaniopsis@aussie.zone 5 points 2 years ago

Thanks Baph!

[–] LaserTurboShark69@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Do you miss the 24 year old girl or do you miss being 24?

[–] Tristaniopsis@aussie.zone 1 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

The girl, who is now about 49 with two kids.

I’m fine with being oldish. I’m a much wiser and less impulsive person.

[–] mothar@lemmings.world 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I think I may have just gone down the same path and im scared I may have the same realization one day.

Why did you guys split up back then?

[–] Tristaniopsis@aussie.zone 5 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Me being an impulsive dork and dumping her for a far less intelligent girl with bigger breasts who didn’t even really happen even. That was it. Game over. She wouldn’t take me back.

TBH I should’ve ended myself then but was too stupid to even realise that was the better option than living another 20 years without her. Still… I wouldn’t have wanted to hurt my parents. Been distracting myself ever since with lots of other stuff. Can’t do it now because of my kids, and mother still alive. Dad fucked in head with dementia. Oh well. Keep trudging on and now have Lemmy to make stupid comments on. Yay.

[–] thorbot@lemmy.world 8 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Hang in there. Consider talking to a therapist.

[–] Tristaniopsis@aussie.zone 3 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

One foot in front of the other. Look for the positives. Know that the perfection I imagine is nostalgic nonsense and it wouldn’t have worked out anyway. We’re just meaningless meat bags of hormones and bullshit. Meh. Whatever. There’s no ‘meant to be’ there’s just ‘is’ , and that too shall pass.

But yeah , thanks.

[–] thorbot@lemmy.world 4 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (2 children)

That’s a wise take(the first part … until you edited more into the comment) Dwelling on what ifs will never get you anywhere

[–] Tristaniopsis@aussie.zone 3 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

I reckon even Buddha had a chick he wishes he didn’t bail on. Edit: btw it’s 2:50 for me and have to get up in 3 hours. I’m going to try to sleep.
Cheers.

[–] Tristaniopsis@aussie.zone 1 points 2 years ago

Sorry re edit. Yes. I’m good at wide takes.