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Dating apps are what broke dating. If you are using dating apps, you're doing it wrong.
What a boomer-ass sounding comment. Most of my friends met their partners on Tinder or Bumble, and so did I.
For people in more rural areas, shy people, or mid-life relationship-seekers/divorcees, dating apps are the absolute most efficient way of meeting people you wouldn’t otherwise normally get to.
Bot accounts may be a problem, but not everywhere, and not for everyone.
Personally, I can’t recommend dating apps enough. Boosted my confidence, made me better at conversation, allowed me to be pickier in my choices, and found me my soul mate.
yup met my spouse on Tindahhh.
Saying dating apps are dead is a silly take, maybe Tinder is dead, but there may be a new option (bumble, hinge? IDK I have a spouse).
Tell that to the millions of people who met long-term partners only because they used dating apps. I met mine on an app and now we have a kid together. We don't have overlapping friend groups, and although we share hobbies we didn't do them in the same areas.
I live in a tiny ass town where the only two ways people socialize with strangers is drinking and maybe gambling and even then this is not a very social area. I am a currently sober alcoholic and even if I liked gambling I don't have the money for it. Thoughts on how I can date 'correctly'?
Move.
That's basically what the rest of us did.
That's advice on the level of "Just take a small 10 million dollar loan from your father."
Laughably unserious.
You need to meet the people where they are at.
I moved recently, and nearly died as a result. It was hell. And I got lucky too. I've moved 10 times. Each move was hell. I never benefitted from moving. I just treaded water. I often moved because I had to, not because it was good, and by often I mean each time. Often one aspect would improve while another would go into the toilet. Not a single move was a pure win or a solution to anything. Fuck every trashcan out there that casually, completely mindlessly, suggests moving like moving is so easy, like it has no downsides, like moving is a solution, like moving is affordable to anyone any time, etc. Fuck that kind of "advice." Fuck every trashcan out there with this kind of "just take a small 10 million dollar loan from of father" style of advice. Or like "just learn how to code." Another trash advice. In fact 99% of all life advice is trash.
I mean.. what do you want me to tell you? I moved to a big city the moment I turned 18. I then moved a bunch of times, and then immigrated. I'm broke, bro. I still did it. I put my shit in the back of my 15+ year old volvo and moved.
Based on the downvotes, ya'll salty and hating, apparently. And refusing to take personal responsibility for your loneliness. Go outside. Visit a hackspace. Meet some furries. Have some depraved sex at a convention.
I've moved plenty and you don't see me ever casually suggesting it to a stranger on the internet. Not once.
There is no one, no one ALIVE, who doesn't know about moving. Likely the person you suggested it to moved 5 times already and knows more about it than you. It's very possible.
Eat shit with your shit advice.
The person was asking about dating and you told them to move without knowing a damn thing about their life or preferences. It's really dumb.