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No, framing that as the best case scenario is just a complete lack of imagination. I'm closer with my friends and family now because we have regular meetups and more scheduled social contact. The idea that this kind of stuff would strain my friendships is actually pretty foreign to me. We do things for each other, and that brings us closer rather than piling up one-way resentment for the people who give more than they get.
I find life to be less stressful when I'm around people I love. And that was always true, before I had kids, too.
Divorce rates have been dropping over the last 40 years, are especially low for college educated couples who got married after the age of 30.
Take a deep breath and realize that lots of people are living lots of different lives. Try to imagine that some of us are happy, too.
College educated couples who got married after the age of 30 are exactly the sort to buy a house before having kids. They'll also have locked-in friends and family who they can count-on, and likely owe them favors. Other than grandparents and single people, these ARE the society you want in your corner.
As someone who did it in the reverse order, I promise you, you're gonna burn a friendship or familial relation or three out of need, ones that otherwise would have lasted generations, and know as its happenning you'll be living with that regret the rest of your life. You may be able to pay them back, but almost certainly neither in-kind or in any way, or on any time-scale, that makes the relationship what it once was.
As you get older, relationships ossify - it takes life-changing events to have any chance to undo extinction events or straight "I'm burned-out on their shit".
So yeah, I have a lot of people who know that I, and my kids know, our family owes them and I will do anything in my power to do whatever I can to help them should they ever ask. They even would likely still help with whatever I asked for, even non-sense("we're square")...
... BUT, they stopped coming to fun "note-worthy" things we invite them to many years-ago. Any sharing in our modest successes(or just relief that x milestone was reached) is tainted by all the dirty-dirty of all the sausage they've helped us make to get to here.
I've been dumping friends the past few years. because they are indeed, ossifying into miserable old cunts. and i don't regard having a social life being worht the misery of listening to someone who is 34 rant on and on about how evil everything is like my parents did. it just sucks and i'd rather be alone doing something productive and interesting with my life.
and that doesn't include the people i've dropped one became conspiracy theorists, incredibly bitter, or just trapped in social media delusion alt reality... ugh. it's so miserable to be around people who just can't think of anyone/anything other than themselves. and as you age... damn that is what most people become, entirely selfish and self-absorbed.
I'm talking about friends that are to be rightly missed. Still close-by and friendly, but not like it once was. Anyone remotely like you've described in my life moved-away or died. They rarely-offered and more importantly never-accepted help in the first-place.
I'm more afraid of being thought of as one of them than worried about bothering to ditch anyone like-so.
You are one of them. To them at least.
As I age I find it incredibly awful/amazing how other people I meet now, basically lecture me about myself. Without knowing anything about me. They just make up a story in their head about me, and run with it.
Oftentimes they will straight up ignore what I have told them about myself, or twist it in these fantastical ways that are clearly projections and fantasies of their fears, but are likely them self-reporting about their own shame about themselves.
Still better to not have to face it out-in-the-open this side of (recognized/recognizable)change for the better. Don't see where I said anything about you, but you didn't hold back about me, did you? Am I supposed to thank you?