Wouldn't that line of thinking imply that women don't have any agency about anything? Whatever they decide can be framed as a reaction to internalized fear.

Not to mention that gender roles also affect men.

[–] Tartas1995@discuss.tchncs.de 7 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Yeah it does and you couldn't really change it. As women would act based on internalized sexism and even if a man wants to respect the wish of a woman and give her 100% control, she would act in the sexist norms, which would signal to the men that women want those sexist norms. So men would continue to "enforce" those norms as women would fear to stop the men.

So sexism can't be solved; and then we can ask why bother trying to change it then?

Stupid line of thinking that is insulting to both, women and men. No means no, my friends. No means no. Respect your fellow humans.

[–] Rustmilian@lemmy.world 0 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (1 children)

I assume you're excluding all the men who prefer a femdom ? IDK if many women know this, but men's sexuality is often a LOT looser then Media lets on. There's plenty of men who'd absolutely love to be thrown around like a rag doll.

[–] Tartas1995@discuss.tchncs.de 3 points 7 months ago (1 children)

I didn't exclude them. And I want to make clear that I strongly believe women to be equal to men. Ofc there are men who want to be dominated.

But I was giving a critic to the idea that women wouldn't be able to freely consent due to some vague sense of possible abuse from a man. Because that would imply that e.g. if a man chains himself on a board and give a woman a cat o' nine tails, the woman couldn't freely choose to hit him as the man is still a source of some vague sense of possible abuse in the future as a consequence of her decision. Which isn't completely wrong, of course there are women to are in such a situation, but as a general condition, it heavily implies that women can't consent to anything, even to anything that would less the threat of abuse. Which is simply insulting to women, and invalidating any woman's opinion on these things, especially those who prefer something that it viewed as possibly abusive.

Like take people seriously, and support the creation of supportive structures for those who need them to get out of a situation where leaving is difficult.

[–] Rustmilian@lemmy.world 3 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

Yes, I understand. And it's indeed a possible situation. But have you ever heard the phrase "they're more afraid of you then you are of them"? Women have more social power than they realize, and the fear is due to specifically manipulative female individuals abusing that social power, even to the extent of violence. So the fear of abuse is a mutual feeling. There will always be bad people. Just please use your power carefully and honestly and work together to reduce evil people. Imo, addressing social economical problems will help greatly reduce the tensions between genders, and the only way to do that is by communicating in the first place.