JackbyDev

attacking someones personality (that they don't know at all) is typically done by women.

Miss me with this misogynistic bull shit.

Stop overthinking it. Unless there really is some additional context you're not sharing (not accusing you of that, but I try to be skeptical with tales like these, AITA posts broke me lol) then I don't think you've done anything wrong. Some people just have landmines. Sometimes they know about them, sometimes they don't. Sometimes they realize it was stepped on, sometimes they don't.

Even if it wasn't that and she only wanted a passionate fling and you wanted something lasting, this would've happened eventually. It's hard, but try to remember the fun for what it was and don't overthink this. Self reflection is important, no doubt, but this doesn't seem like the time.

My best guess is that she wanted things to be slow emotionally and has baggage associated with Valentine's day.

All that but getting a handie.

They're likely describing the 45+ group which they mentioned being the exception.

but she cancelled because I asked her to be my Valentine on Valentine's Day.

You can't just say that and not provide the rest of the story. Do you have the transcript still? Because either you're lying or this is the wildest thing ever. Either way I think we'd want to see.

I take it you must be one of those women

This just icks me out. Do you believe men can't be out off by what you said? (Not that I agree or disagree with what you said.) It just feels nasty to assume the dissent is from women specifically.

Let me start by saying I'm not agreeing or disagreeing with the post you're replying to.

8 out of 9 of us are either married or in a long term relationship.

How long? Because many of the points being made by the comments in this thread are talking about how things changed in the past few years. If you got together pre pandemic you wouldn't have been dating in the environment many are talking about. Even if you got together in like 2021 you may not have experienced it at it's worst (according to them).

Disclaimer: I am married and haven't ever experienced the "dating scene" because I'm with my high school sweetheart. But you need to understand a lot of what the posts in this thread are talking about they're claiming is very recent.

That said, this post (the image) is 100% incel propaganda, accidental if I'm being generous.

Okay, but if it's that big of a deal to you, wouldn't you be happy to know you're incompatible with that person right away over such a simple topic?

Big brain comment right here. Did you write that before or after seeing OP did that? Did you write it before or after seeing that I told someone I used the term goober because I was keeping it light hearted?

Is that all there was to it?

We need to stop defending this sort of behavior.

I wasn't.

implying threads about other issues are less serious.

I never did this.