SubArcticTundra

21M, my life right now is such a mess.

My childhood feels deficient in some things, I really want to move out, my life is spread over multiple countries and I can't decide how to fit each into my future, I'm struggling & demotivated at university, and I've had no success dating and just can't figure out why.

I have a long term plan to get myself out of this but I'm afraid that the plan may prioritize the wrong things or be naively ambitious or specific. I'm AuDHD and seeing as it was my thinking that got me into this mess, my plan to fix it is probably riddled with the same mistakes. Which would mean I'd stay stuck where I am.

What would really help me is to consult my plan with a wise person who has watched many people's life trajectories and who would be able to advise me on what parts of my plan are naive or likely to fail. Since I am AuDHD, I also need someone who will alert me to the sorts of narrow-minded ways of thinking that got me to where I am, because I am obviously blind to these. Or maybe the problem is that I think too much altogether. I can ask for individual pieces of advice on Lemmy but I'm looking for someone who would look at my life in a more holistic way.

What sort of person would be able to help me? I have tried coaching but coaches seem to focus more on CBT and have lacked the wisdom that I am looking for here.

I often code on the go, and I'm looking for a way to extend my screen space beyond that of my laptop when I'm in hotels etc.
I think what would suit me best would be a small projector that can project at a 90⁰ angle, ie. onto the surface that its underside is facing. This way, I could either place it on the table, and have it project onto the table in front of/behind itself, or place it on the floor under a wall and have it project onto the wall above itself.
Is anyone aware of something like this being produced?

I'm a sucker for non-flat UI themes. I've stuck to Adwaita for a long time cause it seemed to resist the trend of flattening everything, but recently I switched to GNOME 43 and now Adwaita's fully flat too. Does anyone know of any nice and crisp skeuomorphic themes? (besides the elementaryOS theme)

Also, it seems there are currently 3 active themes on my system: the legacy Gtk 3 theme, the normal Gtk 4 theme, and the libadwaita gtk4 theme. I've only found a way to change the first of those three (via Tweaks)...