I mean, I'd say this is the opposite of ironic, it is extremely expected and logically follows from how the conservative brain/worldview works.

Basically it just boils down to 'being horny is a sin, sin is an evil, supernatural force or state of being, that acts with will, or comes from deliberate, intentional agency... thus anything that makes me horny, I must dominate, control, defeat, as an external enemy, and also deny that it makes me feel horny, to avoid looking like I have fallen (in) to sin.'

When you institutionalize the idea of a fundamental, carnal, human desire as supernaturally evil, everything relating to how you interact with or experience that desire becomes a shameful perversion, and then you have to hide that perversion by one means or another, and those means are often conquest, conquest involves 'othering' the enemy.

For all their talk of personal responsibility, their entire worldview is designed, with many layers of artificial constructs, to shield them from critical self-reflection, to channel them away from actually understanding themselves.

How can you possibly be responsible for yourself, if you do not even understand yourself, why you do the things you do?

To them, what is most important is the performance of conformity to a hierarchichal group identity role.

That's their 'gender'.

Not self-expression.