Oh hey, yeah I have noticed a lot of that too. People do weirdly feel the need to police other people's body parts. A lot of the straight/bi women I have dated are particularly nasty about this and will make casual commentary about strangers presentation or bodies, and it's a total double standard if I did that.

Trans community has it's own massive issues internally. I have noticed also there is way more support and positivity for MtF than there is for FtM, and a lot of really hostile commentary on other people's stage of transition, or their sexuality.

Sometimes I wonder, there does seem to be a cultural obsession with gatekeeping femininity and the so-called privileges of it, and yet nobody is seeking the privileges of masculinity. There is also a huge uptick in gender sentimentalism for cis people in bother presentation and gender roles, with those of us who don't focus on such things as being considered less than.