Yeah when I did my big loss it really sucked for like a month or two until my brain adjusted to the fact that I wasn't going to give it what it wanted. I'll also admit my big loss was not at a time where my mental state or material conditions were great, so it may have been more obsessive than most people are willing to engage in. And thats key here, the goal in life is to be happy and good, I'm happier skinnier and with an active lifestyle I have no judgment for those who find this process misery inducing and choose not to lose weight or look for alternative means of doing so.

You have adhd you mentioned, so do I. So firstly, actually getting my adhd properly treated is vital, I can't maintain good eating habits when unmedicated because I lack structure and willpower.

But also, do you eat out of boredom? And have you tried making food in your home inconvenient to snack on. I have to do that sometimes, especially making food that's easy to snack on out of the way. I've also found starting with a seltzer or gum helpful between meals. Aside from stuff like that, putting half what you expect to eat for your meal on your plate then waiting a bit after finishing before deciding if you want the other half is something else I've found helpful.